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Topic: The Phoenix ACA
Time: Feb 10, 2023 07:00 PM Pacific Time (US and Canada)
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During this meeting, we read from the ACA "Big Red Book" and "Strengthening My Recovery". If you don't have a copy and can't get one locally, you can order one online below. Nook or Kindle devices/App let you read electronically immediately.


Adult Children: Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families  AKA Big Red Book   ACA Nook Kindle
Strengthening My Recovery ACA Nook Daily Read
Step Study Workbook ACA   Amazon


Hello, My name is ______________________ , an adult child of an alcoholic/dysfunctional family. Welcome to the Phoenix, a meeting of Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families.  Please turn off all cell phones and mute your microphone when not speaking during the meeting in order to reduce background noise. We meet to share the experience we had as children growing up in alcoholic or dysfunctional homes. That experience Infected us then, and it Affects us today. By practicing the 12 steps, focusing on “The Solution”, and by accepting a higher power of our understanding, we find Freedom from the effects of Alcoholism and other family Dysfunction. We identify with “The Problem, The Laundry List” and learn to live in “The Solution”, One Day at a Time.

  • Would someone please read the Laundry Lists?  Page 586   BRB
  • Would someone please read the Solution?   Page 590    BRB
  • Would someone please read the 12 steps?   Page 591    BRB

You may have related to our readings even though there was no apparent alcoholism in your home. This is common because dysfunction can occur in a family without the presence of addiction. We welcome you.

  • Is this anyone's first meeting or are you in your first 24 hours?   (If yes, clap as a group and say "Please introduce yourself.  We do not do this to embarrass you but to get to know you.  Thank you.")


Support and Fellowship:  In this meeting, we encourage reaching out to each other in mutual support and fellowship as “fellow travelers”.  Everybody who wants to is encouraged to share their phone number by posting it in the ZOOM Chat. In addition, please indicate there if you would like to have your number added to our list for text message reminders, which are sent out each week before the meeting.  If you have accessed this meeting via a ZOOM ID, please send me a CHAT message with your number. I will add it for you after the meeting. If you accessed this meeting via  https://fullyexpress.me/thephoenix  site, scroll down to the bottom of this meeting format (or use the link to find).  There you will find an area to sign up for reminders for THIS meeting, for the Wednesday "From the Ashes" ACA Meeting, or to sign up for a future step study group.  

Anonymity:  What you see and hear at this meeting should remain at this meeting. We do not talk about another person’s story or experiences to other people. Please respect the anonymity of those who share with us today.

Crosstalk:  We do not crosstalk during this meeting which means we do not interrupt, refer to, or comment on what another person has said during the meetings. We do not crosstalk because adult children come from family backgrounds where feelings and perceptions were judged as wrong or defective.  We accept without comment what others say because it is TRUE FOR THEM!  We work toward taking more responsibility for our own lives rather than giving advice to others. 

Any group member who believes he or she has been crosstalked can ask the secretary of the meeting to read our full cross talk rules.

Literature:  We strongly recommend obtaining Adult Children: Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families (our "Big Red Book" or BRB), Strengthening My Recovery, and other conference-approvred literature.  ACA publications and teddy bears are available for purchase from https://shop.adultchildren.org. We strongly recommend these materials for the recovery process.  If you are unable to afford the purchase, the NorCal ACA Intergroup can help (limited to members requesting with a US address)!  They will purchase and send you at no charge a Big Red Book or Strengthening My Recovery.  Please contact Courbet at 916-833-6074.

Reading:  This is a book study and sharing meeting.  We read from Strengthening My Recovery and the “The Big Red Book”.  We will stop the reading at 7:35-7:40 and begin open sharing until a little after 8:00.

  • Would someone please read the daily affirmation from Strengthening My Recovery?
  • We will begin reading and sharing from The Big Red Book.
    • Members volunteer to read, and do so until they pass.
    • When a member has passed, please feel free to share or relate to the subject matter just read and how it affects you.
    • Please keep your share to 2-3 minutes so that others may share.
    • When everyone has had a chance to share, another member is encouraged to read.
    • We can begin reading now from page...
  • (At 7:35-7:40 PM) We will now begin open sharing.
    • Open sharing on our readings or any other pressing ACA related topic ends a little after 8:00 P.M. followed by announcements.
    • Please limit your sharing to 2 or 3 minutes to allow everyone a chance to share.
    • We can begin open sharing now...

    7th Tradition: It is now time for the 7th Tradition, which states that: “Every ACA group ought to be self-supporting, declining outside contributions.” When you are able, please donate, so that we may keep this meeting alive and well. We can accept donations by Venmo, PayPal, or Personal Check by arrangement, see the announcement in CHAT or see below. Newcomers need not contribute to the 7th Tradition for their first meeting.

For 7th Tradition Donations:  May be made via Venmo, PayPal or by personal check by arrangement.  Donations via Venmo:  @Rebecca-McGuire-32 and the last 4 of her phone number are 0874 for your first donation.  Donations via PayPal:  @ACARebeccaC and the last 4 of her phone number are 0874.  For both Venmo and Pay Pal, please indicate "personal" in the service/goods line to avoid a 3% service charge

Would someone please read the tradition of the month from 12 Traditions?

Announcements: Now it is time for the:

  • Secretary’s announcements
  • Any other announcements
  • We have a business meeting each quarter when announced. Anybody can request a special meeting to be held for any topic. Business meetings are held immediately following the next regularly scheduled ACA meeting.


Thank you for being here and please keep coming back. All you need to do is show up!  If you did not have a chance to share, please speak to someone after the meeting. This meeting will be kept open so you can do so.

Would someone please read The Promises or Bill of Rights?

Let’s stand in a circle and hold hands as _________ closes the meeting with the ACA Serenity Prayer and the Self-Love Exercise.

Keep Coming Back, It Works if You Work it; So Work it, Because You’re Worth It!


  1. Laundry List
  2. The Flip Side of the Laundry List
  3. The Other Laundry List
  4. The Flip Side of the Other Laundry List
  1. ACA 12 Steps
  2. Tony A 12 Steps


The Traveler Monthly Newsletter:  This is an email publication, released at the beginning of each month, which highlights ACA service announcements, news and recovery events. You can sign up for the traveler at www.adultchildren.org, here.

The Official ACA Bill of Rights


Ballot Proposals:  Link to more info:   2024 ACA Ballot Proposals

Name Change Survey:   Link to more info:    2024 ACA Name Survey

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